CRISIS –II
In avoiding the scope for crisis
some traits or elements are important.
The elements-essential, but destroyed:
As a person grows, a few things should get into the personality of the
individual. These include a sense of confidence, the tendency to strive and
attain a good ability to communicate and a basic capacity for logical approach
to ‘life situations’. These cannot be infused in to children who are pampered;
instead they develop a tendency of looking down upon others as individuals who
can “ill-afford”. This steadily establishes a mind for comparison on a “materialistic
plane”. Once any human mind falls to this trap of assumed superiority, the
individual tries to establish his or her supremacy among equals. An imminent
outcome from this style of living is forming a group. Invariably, the group
leader is the one who is materially affluent. This makes deep inroads in to all
the essential characteristics of confidence-building, efforts to attain and
strive for logical deductions because the young mind comes under the
stranglehold of sycophancy. Apart from the individual getting ruined, many
others of the group lose sight of the need for equipping themselves. They
apparently feel secure or comfortable in the ‘providing’ company of the
pampered leader. Students at the levels of 8th standard onwards,
succumb to such situations. At that age, friendship has to be absolutely free
from material considerations of running after the rich who may throw a few
chocolates and try to command the not-so –affluent. To keep off temptations, calls for
a maturity of sorts. But, a
general cautioning at around the age of 7 or 8 while providing the basic
facilities for learning, helps the child to analyze.
Also, if the children are confident of attaining by effort, they will
generally escape from traits of sycophancy. The role of parents is quite
important at these stages. Money-hunting parents cannot obviously, be aware of
the impending dangers to their children, for, they believe that they can
‘control’ everything by money. The first thing they lose control of, is their
children as the latter feel that they are in a resourceful ambience and their
job is to utilize the resources. That is why, I insist on effort of attaining
anything. Children not brought up on right modes of ‘learn, strive, exert and
achieve’ cannot be expected to “develop”. At best they may grow biologically.
Any individual has to develop
while still growing. Does our ambience favour it? Many may not agree with me on
the plea that children need being taken care of. Yes, to a certain level until
they are able to differentiate ‘our own’ and ‘not our own’. Thereafter, the
ability to distinguish safe and unsafe courses steadily develops in the mind.
From then on, obvious support must be slowly withdrawn, making the child
understand that support can be sought only by making the right effort. For
every effort the parent has to acknowledge by verbal appreciation. It is the
right tonic that builds confidence. Confidence derived from effort helps to
strive for more. With such efforts in everyday learning, the child grasps the
nuances of learning. Mere completion of home work is not learning. It is but
one step towards patient approach to learning. In these efforts, parents must
spare time with the child in providing a moral support and get an opportunity
to understand the difficulties of the child. These simple parental
participatory efforts can ward off the scope for digression and the possibility
of ‘mechanical’ home work that hampers the delight in learning. Children unattended to, lose inclination to
learn, as they do not readily understand anything, unless properly narrated.
This is the critical stage of foundation. Well founded early stages prove an
asset in higher stages, since building on foundation is better than clinging on
to scaffolding.
Effort and reward:
At the outset, let me make it clear that, reward that we conceive
essential for human lives may not come forth as an immediate effect. But,
certainly it will come not in a form
conceived by us, but at a time and stage with such a telling effect that one
can recognize the hand of Divinity therein. What I try to suggest is, any
genuine effort of labour has to detach itself from immediate materialistic
consideration. Study, character building, attitudes of righteousness are never
meant to promote material wealth. Together they define the stature of a
‘perfect citizen’. Perfect citizens are those who can upkeep values even on the
face of adversity. They will not be swayed by material considerations. To develop skills and stay balanced all
through is the richest asset that any blessed soul can aspire for. What the
rest of the society deems essential in the form of money power and positions of
authority without being genuinely equipped are mere symptoms of the ‘fall –to-be’.
These “efforts” of material ascension do not mean any safety in the sense that
the very members of the family would indulge in dog fight over who should take
possession of what, even as the man is languishing in bed for want of timely
attention. Is it not a crisis to possess
so much wealth that cannot buy your health? There is a clear bargain over
the returns for every ‘service’ rendered by even children and grandchildren.
Why all this? Over the years we focus on materialistic efforts and when it boomerangs
all Gods delightfully watch your plight: not because Gods are sadistic but they
keep “our life” under public gaze for others to take the cue from. But we are a
clever lot taking the wrong cue of how to “out- perform” the richest man of our
times. This is the thin line of demarcation between the clever and the
intelligent. The latter chooses to be self-reliant by acquiring the essential
attributes, leaving it to nature to take care of sustaining balance all
through. The intelligent know the gap between eternal safety and the ephemeral
tinsel.
Crisis
in our work ambience :
Bad upbringing has a long-lasting effect and
the effect integrates into the very attitudes of the person. A significant
impact to the personality is an attitude of hoodwinking. Such persons make use
of every occasion to drive a wedge of disharmony among people so that an
element of suspicion fills the air. This polluted atmosphere comes in handy to for
them keep everyone guessing. Why should a person resort to this strategy? The
person recognizes that “I cannot match the requirements of the situation”. If a
peaceful atmosphere prevails “I would soon be spotted as incompetent. Let me
keep the atmosphere tense so that analysis is kept at bay”. As the next step,
the inadequate person indulges in mudslinging and character assassination of
more competent persons. This is crisis- self inflicted by the incompetent,
instead of improving upon one’s own ability, downsizing the value of others is
resorted to.
To continue Prof. K. Raman