Ideal circle of friends

 Ideal circle of friends

As long as we settle for a good circle of friends, nagging problems of social nature may not confront us. People may not feel shy of transcending limits especially when they are in need of help. Depending on the extent to which we can lend support, we should review the prospect of sustaining the relationship. This is so because, seekers of help try to expand their dependence when they locate sympathy. This behaviour may not be deliberate, but generally has a history of repeats. Instead of getting committed too deep, it is ideal to keep off. After a couple of unproductive trials, people recognize the futility of looking to us for help. I do not suggest severing the relationship. It should be made clear that we can help to some extent without disturbing self priorities. It is a simple way of infusing some orderly approaches for interaction. People tune themselves properly for mutual interaction.

Our disposition:

It is an elementary requirement that we adopt such restrictions which we prescribe for others. An automatic reaction is - general reciprocity. Other than “keeping” the ideal distance, people should interact normally providing for a free flow of ideas. This is a natural advantage for recognizing the merits in one another. Caution should prevail during a group interaction, to avoid ‘cutting short’ any one. Cutting short hurts any one and implies that the person is unwelcome. Such minor interruptions do not help building a good rapport with people. On many issues including those of official nature, a lot hinges on rapport and it helps to soften situations even in adversity. Life, being a game of interactions, requires careful treading all through, since situations may witness rapid changes.  Expecting the unexpected is a vital element to help adjusting to variations. 

In the ultimate analysis, utterances make the road to success or succour. Building the rapport is vital for any one intending progress. But, the individual’s efforts in life do matter to the extent of making him / her competent enough. A blend of so many things comes together in determining the profile of a person. Since, the attitude of reciprocity is common, we need to have an open-minded approach to others. Practising what we preach is both simple and effective to achieve cordiality.

To Conclude:

Success in our day-to-day functions depends on how far people are inclined to co-operate with us. Indirectly, our attitudes towards them determine their disposition to us. So long as we adhere to healthy approaches in interaction with others, we may find the going smooth and useful. In simple terms, one can shape the kind of reciprocity desirable to self. To steer clear of avoidable controversies is a method of sustaining good relationship. Good interpersonal relation is an ideal tool to achieve rapport and support from our people around. At hours of need we may also draw upon their counseling. When confronted by intricate situation, patience runs out; some sensible analysis can be had from trusted friends. Exigencies can never be predicted. So, it is better to consider all prospects while building the circle of friends. Obviously, getting the right circle of friends is an act of Divine grace. It is for us to sustain the gift by adopting right approaches.                                                   .                                          Prof. K. Raman