Saturday, February 22, 2025

WHAT OF THESE “GET-TOGETHERs?

 

WHAT OF THESE “GET-TOGETHERs?               

             [ My Blog Posting No.1259 ]

Quite some opinion may emerge seeing the very title, though in reality no bad or scorn is meant and none needed either . What runs through my perception or  inference is shaped by a set of communications that religiously figure before and after the event –a“GET-TOGETHER” [by our colleagues (MCRP] at Madurai]. .

Frankly speaking it stands to reason to look for –why –

a ‘Get together” in the first place- and then to the attendant corollary –the impact that it leaves on the participants-- only to trigger another of its kind in a regular periodicity as to deserve the name “the rhythm”.

That, a rhythmic recurrence of the process has come to stay, is a grand declaration of uniform appeal and acceptance among those who have had a couple of such participations more as a means of finding some relevance in the current dispensation named “Retirement”. To me, retirement can be summed up as a mechanism to keep persons out of action –on the surmise of age.

 While experience is something that a person craves for and several systems try to sieve experienced human sources for picking those who need no briefing, the very same parameter works to the disadvantage of the person.

That, attaining an age [experience] in a profession can turn to be “the last straw on camel’s back” –is more amusing than annoying.. 

Coming to the topic’s innate features, I for one would readily accede that it is the sheer joy of seating next to a colleague with whom one may never have shared ‘this proximity’ despite decades of daily presence in the same place of work.

It works in favour of a get together.  One may ask –is it such a great feeling to be in the company of the very same persons who performed along for near 30 years plus?

Well-- feelings are very fine emotions that can seldom be fettered by definitions or descriptions –however much one may exert to present it in a package of words. Vocabulary cannot render justice or bring out the cryptic element “delight” something exclusive to the mind of a participant.

 It is the sense of belonging that drives the ‘Longing TO MEET’ so typical of ‘familiarity’. The adage ‘ Familiarity breeds contempt’ is not of validity all the time , as longing to  meet the known, roots itself in familiarity more than in anything else.

Indeed the human mind is an inexplicable module of peculiar ‘love-hate ‘equations that right away fade off, as one is pushed out from brisk life by retirement.

As one is kept off a system by such official rigours,  the element of nostalgia tends to grow in magnitude and the urge to meet the then colleagues gets to the fore looking for an opportunity to be together by a “get together”.

Perhaps a logical freedom to stay longer in that company is fortified by a session of lunch that launches a greater goodwill among minds.

Why does this kind of a mindset blossom from within?

Well, among the varied professions, teaching is one where no two individuals are alike. I mean even if we teach the same domain of knowledge, we share nothing in common except the syllabus. In plain terms teaching is exclusively between the teacher and the wards entrusted to the person. So, all the time teachers operate as individuals and need not ever be brought under a comparison; like the proverbial race horse, each runs the race, not for the trophy, but, for imparting instructions.

Having spent a whole life as familiar but independent functionaries, a stage comes when such persons prefer to know one another more by a courtesy of exchanging pleasant memories with no strings on either side.

 The zeal with which every meet is planned stands testimony   to  the inherent exuberance typical of the event. Several rounds of reminder over the venue, the list of participants and the number of members on each group keep figuring through a span of time- at least a fortnight ahead.

Even more vibrant is the democratic decision over the proposed menu that simultaneously fills the plate and fulfills the palette, if the suggestions invited /offered are any indication. It is a happy augury that members are blessed to be fit and able to call for specifics [menu] that befit a gathering of the kind that we are recalling at the moment.

Hardly there is any ‘no’ to anything. Indeed it is a delight to acknowledge that while men –half our age look sapped out by the pressures of life, teachers by and large stay in better shape and health having been always in an ambience of inquisitive youth.

Still, retirement drives a feeling of being left low and dry [lone and isolated from pithy arguments] that a ‘get together’ instantly ignites the longing for  meeting friends of a like description.   

The host on every occasion is abundantly delighted, organizing essential facilities for [s]eating.  To peacefully accommodate a  near  score and more[wo] men  at a time, is no mean task even by the most conservative reckoning.

Besides, another kinship opens up with the women folk of different households coming together as a natural corollary to their menfolk meeting at some predetermined venue – a house of one or another of the participants.

‘Getting together’ right away enhances the expanse of new-found members in the team of old colleagues.    Such is the impact of refurbishing our time-old friendship by a conscious effort –the ‘get together’.

 It fortifies the bondage and heightens the feeling of happiness among our life-time colleagues especially when our children are at far off places, fending themselves in their life game.

A very simple way of tiding over the silent solitude in life is “Getting together”, for, our life has ever been one of ceaseless talking. Staying tongue-tied is next to imprisonment for a teacher.

Friends --  please keep getting together as often as feasible; it helps us [the out station members] to at least mentally conceive the  kind of joyous  moments that descend spontaneously  much like fragrance all over.

Thank you

Regards   

K. Raman

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WHAT OF THESE “GET-TOGETHERs?

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